Let’s Walk This Road Together
Welcome to Coach One Love where we focus on the one love that matters most, self love. Hi, I am Maria Bernard and this is my husband Anton! I am so grateful you found this page. Our passion and calling to help others, grew from our own experiences of pain and this overwhelming feeling of being stuck.
We want to share our experiences and wisdom with others in hopes of supporting their relationships and nourishing their healing process. One Love Coaching aims to be a helping hand as you walk through your healing journey. Like one of our favorite artist and song writers once said:
We’ll walk this road together, through the storm, whatever weather, cold or warm… just letting you know that you are not alone.
-Marshalll Mathers
You are truly not alone.
In fact, it was our broken hearts and the thought that we were the only ones experiencing this pain that kept us in the ugly cycle as described by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs in his book titled Love and Respect. After getting our hands on this book we learned that we were misunderstanding each other and therefore causing further pain. I disrespected Anton and in turn Anton stopped showing up with love. Our daily lives felt dark and heavy. We both were in pain and felt misunderstood.
Soon after reading through Love and Respect in 2018, we joined Marriage Mondays in 2019 where we were one of 30 couples who met every Monday for 8 weeks to share our trials and tribulations in marriage! We not only met so many amazing couples but we also left inspired and hopeful that we too can make lasting changes. We no longer felt embarrassed or alone in our trials.
After reading the book and attending Marriage Monday, the underlying message that became apparent was becoming a better person in order to have a better marriage. This is actually a well known mantra by our friends over at Marriage 365 who have been a great resource for both Anton and I as we started our healing journey.
The Road to Self Love
Everyone has a different healing journey but they all lead you back to YOU!
It starts and ends with the only person you have control over… YOU.
I am guilty of wanting to control the world around me. I wanted to control every outcome and situation; especially my husband Anton. It was so much easier for me to point the finger at him and make him responsible for all the things that went wrong.
I eventually realized that I had no control over Anton and in fact, giving him control over my feelings and situations only made me dwell deeper in the victim role and gave Anton all the power to manipulate my thoughts and feelings even though that wasn’t his intention.
Ten years into our marriage I can finally say that we are on our healing journey and we can’t help but to share it with you!
We’re becoming the best version of ourselves in order to show up in a loving, respectful and fun way. This wouldn’t have been possible without all the amazing resources and tools we can’t wait to share with you!
If we were once stuck in despair and darkness, we know that you too can stand with us and fight against generational curses that live in our hearts. We invite you to walk with us to heal and repair your heart. You’ll find that soon, your relationships with your loved ones will flourish into understanding and communication.
I hope this helped you better understand our why and how excited we are to help you too achieve ONE LOVE as you continue in your healing journey!
